How to Design and Attract the Perfect Partner


For those of you who have been searching for the love of your life, trying to find the partner who is perfect for you may seem to have become like trying to find the Holy Grail. Perhaps you have tried many times with many people or have been alone hoping the right one would come along. Either way, it is normal to long for the one who will proudly walk beside you, support you and cherish you like the gem that you are. Take heart because there are ways to bring you the person who seems custom made just for you. With a few simple steps you can become a love magnet, attracting people who resonate with you safely and are in harmony with what you want. Let’s get started.

Change Your Words or Why You Shouldn’t Ask for a Soul Mate

One of the most commonly heard wishes for love is, “I want to find my soul mate”. This is understandable because it sounds like a person who was sent here to love you and support you. The truth of the matter is that the soul mate relationship is a learning relationship and unfortunately we often learn best through conflict. These types of relationships can be the I love you, I hate you, come closer, stay back, can’t live with you and can’t live without you type of relationships. They may seem miserable but even if you try to break up with the person, the spiritual connection is so strong that you continue to feel that person’s energy even when no longer in a relationship with them. The purpose of the soul mate relationship is to learn valuable lessons about life through relationships and few things teach better lessons than conflict because conflict requires a lot of introspection, compromise, sacrifice, all lessons that we need to help our souls evolve. If you have been in a string of conflicted relationships or even just one, chances are you already have found your soul mate(s).

Another reason to avoid asking for a soul mate is that soul mates are not just romance partners nor is there just one. They can be friends, parents, relatives, co-workers, etc. all here to help you to learn and grow. Try changing your wish to, “I want to find the person who is perfect for me and who I am perfect for, who resonates with me safely and is in harmony with my life’s plan and purpose.” Just making this adjustment to your way of thinking may drastically improve who comes into your life because now the Universe knows what you really want.

The next wish to rethink is, “I want someone who will love me unconditionally”. When you think about that, it’s a pretty tall order. Consider what you are saying. You are effectively saying that you should be able to do whatever you want and still expect your partner to love you even if what you do hurts them. On the same token if you offer to love unconditionally then you are giving your partner license to lie, cheat and steal from you, inflict emotional pain or commit any number of nightmarish acts and that will be okay with you. That type of love is usually reserved for parents and their children. No matter what a child does, their parents may punish them but will still love them and even that is not always the case. Treat someone badly and eventually they will probably fall out of love with you and into the arms of someone who treats them better. Change your wish to, “I want a partner who will love, respect and support me in the same way that I will love, respect and support them.” This is a much more reasonable wish and makes it clear to the Universe precisely what you truly want.

The third wish is, “I just want someone who will make me happy.” Happy is a very general word and in order for the law of attraction to work it is important to be specific about exactly what it is that makes you happy. This brings us to our next step.

Change Your Type

Many of us have a certain “type” of person that we are drawn to. They may be short, tall, slim, curvy or muscular. Perhaps they have a certain way of smiling or are the serious type. They may have a certain swagger that sends heat through your entire system and draws you to them like a bee to honey. If this is has been the case and your relationships with these “types” have not ended well, then it may be time to change your type. Of course if you have liked a certain type for a while it might seem hard to change it but all it takes is some introspection.

The way to start is to sit down and define exactly what you are looking for in a partner. When you do this, you start to think past the color of their eyes and/or their body type. You start to search your soul for the type of partner that you are really looking for. To start designing your perfect partner, start by asking yourself these basic questions and then fill in the blanks yourself with what you are looking for:

What is my perfect partner’s personality like? What hobbies do they have? What are their passions? How do they feel about commitment? What is their idea of a perfect partnership? What is their communication style? What type of sense of humor do they have? How affectionate are they?

Start with those basics and then add your own such as what industry do they work in and now would also be a good time to add in your preferred hair and eye color, body type and unless you want to pay the freight, you might want to ask that they at least be self-supporting.

Create and Execute Your Action Plan

Now that you have better defined the type of partner you are looking for, it’s time to create and execute your action plan. Take a piece of unlined paper and at the top, put My Perfect Partner. Then list all of the attributes that you came up with when designing them. Next, keep the list by your bedside and as soon as you wake up or at least within the first 30 minutes when the subconscious is more open to suggestion, read your list. As you read it, breathe life into it by imagining what it would be like to be with such a person, how it would make you feel, the joy it would bring. Then put the paper down and go about your day. If possible, at some point during the day, come back and repeat the process.

Next, do the same thing within 30 minutes of going to sleep. The reason its best to keep it by the bedside is because it will be there when you wake up and will be there when you go to sleep. This starts the law of attraction’s magnetic powers to start to attract the one you that will truly complement and make you happy.

Do Your Part

Just creating and reading your action plan is not enough. The Universe will do its part but you still have to do yours. If you are a homebody, go out and start mingling. You can join a meet up group that has likeminded people in your area, ( Just hanging out with a group of people who share your interests can open whole new doors for you. Let your trusted friends know that you are looking. You never know who has a cousin or uncle that is also looking and that you may be compatible with. Consider joining a reputable dating site. The point is to get out there so that your perfect partner can find you. Alas there is no magic GPS that will just guide them to your door.

Good luck with your search and may the Universe send you your perfect, loving partner. Namaste.